On a high note my brother-in-law and his wife came to visit us on Saturday and that was a special treat for all of us. They even brought lunch and all of us including my son and his family were able to enjoy Chinese fare. We hadn't seen them in a couple years, but it was just as if we hung out all the time and we were able to catch up on each others families. We always say we can't go so long next time and we really have to do this more often. We all mean well and time does slip by, instead of lamenting about the lost time, we need to concentrate on how enjoyable our visit was. It was good for them to see Diane while she could still remember them, and you could see how much she loves her family. ( It was a good day. ) Thank You Ken & Cathy
I did go see an attorney yesterday and he really answered a lot of questions we all have. He assigned a load of work for me to do as soon as possible. It has to do wills, finances, and preparation for Diane and my future. I will discuss this in the future after I've gone through the process. I might just have to get myself a newer vehicle just so I won't lose some of our savings, I kinda liked hearing that.
I have become aware of how verbalizing what your thinking can effect someone who just overhears your words. Diane is very fragile mentally and can react dramatically by hearing something she doesn't quite understand. When I'm trading stocks, paying bills or any other task I might say something that is negative. Like, shoot !!, dang it !!, Oh No !!, you idiot !! and I might even slap the desk. Now with the TV news and throw in her imaginary friends she can really be confused.. Sometimes I think she is fine and I turn around and she has tears running down her cheeks and she is imagining all kind of things, it could be we are leaving her or she is dying . Also, when we are talking with others she picks up an idea that we are discussing something that affects her, and we might well be. But she grasps for an interpretation and it really feeds her fears. It is not to far different than what children take away from a conversation, I'm sure that you have been embarrassed a time or two when you hear what your child says you said at home. One point that is completely different is when you are cleaning up a baby, it is funny by all to make faces, and hold your nose as you tell them how gross they are. With an adult patient we need to always make them feel comfortable, physically and mentally. I know she is concerned about how she is per sieved by how important it is for her to have privacy.
paul
Just because we Think it, Doesn't mean we Bleep it.